How To Tell If A Man Likes You

How to know if a Man likes you. And just to be clear ladies we are talking about a Man not a boy. 

I’ll get straight to the point and say you will just know. You will know by his actions and the way he treats you. Men are innately wired to profess, protect, and provide. If he’s not doing these things then sorry to break it to you but he might not really be into you. When a man is into you there is no second guessing it. He will be respectful and do some or all of the 5 love languages to show he is the right man for you. You will feel so secure you will just know. Now, this does not mean a man should chase and beg for your affection. If you are not showing signs of interest he should know to move on and not hold a grudge for the next woman (stay away from those kind of men), however, if he likes you he will court you and it will be obvious he’s into you. 

Now, if he is showing affection or tells you he likes you but is not consistent, it could very much be true. He may like you or even like having you around, but it does not mean you are “the one” for him. It’s easy for men to keep a woman around if he likes her, even if he knows he has no intentions of marrying her. To them there is a difference between the woman he likes and the woman he will love. I know I know, it sounds harsh, but I want you to know there are plenty of men who are more than willing and want to do great things for you and you should not waste any time on someone who has you second guessing. 

So if you are getting mixed signals, been hanging around some guy from the gym and he hasn’t asked you out, or your boyfriend has been acting distant and you think you just need to try harder, please please don’t. And I mean that in the nicest way possible. There is nothing wrong with you and you shouldn’t have to do more to get him to “act right”. 

As a woman, we are more likely to fall for a man if we spend enough time with him. For example, have you ever been with someone you weren’t initially into but then they “grew on you”. Yes, that happens to us way more than it would ever happen to a man. In fact men know within the first few interactions if they can imagine a serious relationship with you. Women tend to need some time and convincing. This isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes we end up with someone we wouldn’t initially think of and they turn out to be the best thing ever. Sometimes they are filled with red flags and you ignore them and it turns into the worst thing ever. This is why you should leave at the first red flag. Don’t let his red flags grow on you to the point you start making excuses for him. 

I know woman who have given a man the benefit of the doubt because “he’s just going through a hard time right now” or “they’ve been through a lot in life” or “he will change'', however, their feelings for you is not something that you can change and their past experiences shouldn’t inhibit them from treating you well if they really like you. No one is perfect, I’m not saying people can’t change. At the end of the day all relationships, and the good ones, are the ones that help each other grow and become better versions of themselves, but you shouldn’t be convincing someone to want to be a better version of themselves. They have to want that for themselves. And as annoying as it may be to you, sometimes it takes walking away for them to see that and be willing to make the change. So, save yourself the trouble and only date the ones who are sure of you. You can grow and become better with that kind of man. 

Now I’m going to say something you may have already heard plenty of times. While you wait for the man who doesn’t make you question if you are the one for them, you should continue working on yourself. Whether that’s starting a fitness journey, starting your dream career, working on your mental health, or simply picking up a new hobby. God’s timing is always right. You do not have to settle and you shouldn’t. Just make sure you are also the person you want to attract and you are someone you would want to be with.

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